Tuesday, May 26, 2015

Chiang Mai, Thailand City Guide By: Sabrina Smelko

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For the past four years, Chiang Mai, Thailand has been home to Alana Morgan. It was also the spot she called home after moving out for the first time, and where she accomplished many other milestones from learning to ride a motorcycle to teaching English to backpacking for two months with a stranger. She’s explored Southeast Asia extensively over this time, but no matter where her travels take her (which she documents on her travel blog, Paper Planes), she lands back in Chiang Mai where she feels most at home — and she doesn’t plan on leaving anytime soon! As an expat, Alana has had a diverse experience from living with locals to staying in hotels to sleeping in tents, so her guide features a great mix of spots and suggestions that range from more general recommendations so you can customize your trip, to specific places you must check out. –Sabrina

There are few places I have been where I feel fully comfortable and content, yet still excited to keep discovering more. Chiang Mai is one of them. A small city nestled in the northern hills of Thailand Chiang Mai is worlds away from bustling Bangkok yet still offers a little something for everyone.

With its lush landscape, affordable and delicious food and relaxed atmosphere, it’s a hard place to leave…which is why I’ve ended up living here for the past four years! Even though I’ve stayed longer than expected, I’m still finding new things about the city that surprise me and make me fall more in love with it every day. These are some of my favorites…

STAY

Chiang Mai is firmly planted on the Southeast Asia backpacker trail and is a popular tourist destination so there are a ton of accommodation options ranging from dorm room hostels, to boutique hotels and luxury resorts. With the cheapest rooms going for as low as $5 or so, there’s definitely something to fit every budget.

Chiang Maan Residence

1. Chiang Maan Residence

Traditionally, all Thai homes were made of teak wood. Today, that certainly isn’t the case, but if you look closely, through all the concrete you can still spot some old-style wooden houses in various states of disrepair. At Chiang Maan Residence you can stay in one of these traditional homes. With only four rooms, the small guesthouse is very intimate, yet comfortable and, though right in the center of the Old City, feels like you’ve found a hidden gem. (The guesthouse doesn’t have a great website, but you can find it on a number of hotel booking sites like Booking.com, Agoda or Asiarooms.)

Villa Duang Champa This hotel in an older, colonial style building is conveniently located in the center of the Old City and has a slightly hipster feel to it. You can start your day eating breakfast (included) in the property’s cozy garden and end it with a cool drink as you watch passersby on the street.

Sala Lanna

2. Sala Lanna

If you’re looking to splurge a little but still want something small with lots of character, Sala Lanna is a great option along the river. The luxury boutique hotel has 15 guest rooms that blend simple decor with Lanna (Northern Thai) touches. (Also, the restaurant’s khao soi – a traditional Chiang Mai dish of spicy coconut curry over yellow egg noodles that’s then topped with lime, shallots, pickled greens and fried noodles – is the best I’ve had in town!)

DO

Though it’s relatively small, there’s enough in Chiang Mai to fill everyday with different experiences and activities…or just as easily spend your time relaxing and soaking up the city’s sabai sabai (comfortable and relaxed) vibe. The best days here have a mix of both.

Visit Doi Suthep 

3. Wat Phra That Doi Suthep

Doi Suthep, the mountain (more like a large hill actually) on the west side of town that is home to the famous Wat Phra That Doi Suthep temple with its impressive golden chedi (stupa). Along the way up the mountain you can also stop at a number of waterfalls or continue on pass the temple and visit a hill tribe village or Doi Pui National Park for a dose of nature.

Take a cooking course You can find cooking classes throughout the country, but Chiang Mai is one of the best places to do one. There are many companies running half-day or full-day classes and all offer abut the same program so you can’t go wrong.

Get a massage

4. Fah Lanna Spa

Actually, you should get several. Hour-long Thai massages start as low as $6 so make the most of them! If Thai massages aren’t your thing – I think of them as yoga for lazy people as the masseuses move stretch and contort your body – you can also go for an oil or foot massage, body scrub and more. A couple of my go-to places are Deep Relax and Fah Lanna Spa.

Get a tattoo It sounds funny, but between the several universities in town and thousands of tourists, Chiang Mai is home to a number of tattoo shops doing both machine and bamboo tattoos and is a great place to get the ultimate souvenir of your trip. Since my friend’s a tattoo artist, I’m naturally partial to his shop, CM Classic Tattoo, but take the time to look around, do your research and find a shop and artist you’re comfortable with.

Huay Tung Tao If you want a really local experience, head to Huay Tung Tao, a reservoir just outside of town on Canal Road toward Mae Rim to relax in a waterfront cabana while nibbling on a variety of Thai dishes and enjoying a cold beer. This area is especially popular on Sundays when large groups of friends will come and spend the afternoon lounging, snacking and sipping the day away.

SHOP

Though Chiang Mai has more than its fair share of malls and shopping centers, its markets are where the real deals are at. There are different markets running throughout the city at all times of day and night – several fresh markets will open around 3:00 or 4:00 in the morning – that sell anything and everything. Unless set prices are clearly marked on items (or you’re buying food) you can haggle with the vendors for a lower price, especially if you’re buying multiples of something.

Sunday Walking Street Chiang Mai’s Sunday Walking Street runs from Tha Pae Gate and goes all the way along Ratchadamnoen Road for about 1.5 kilometers until reaching Wat Phra Singh in the center of the old city every Sunday starting around 5:00 pm. The night market is popular with both locals, Thai tourists and foreign tourists and is where you can find a range of souvenirs, t-shirts, artwork, hand made items and, of course, food. Between the size of the market and number of people that go each week, plan on spending a few hours here.

Wororot Market From gold jewelry and kitchen appliances to dried fruit and fabrics, Wororot Market is a large market complex on the east side of town close to the river that sells just about everything and has been a Chiang Mai institution for decades. The market can be overwhelming, especially the first time you visit. Take it slow and don’t be afraid of getting lost in the mess of little streets, you can’t get too far away from where you started. While a lot of what’s on sale here is geared more toward locals, you can also snag some great snacks, souvenirs and decor items to take back home.

Baan Khang Wat 

5. Baan Khang Wat

5. Baan Khang Wat shop

Located close to the base of Doi Suthep, Baan Khang Wat is part artists’ village, part lifestyle mall and 100% cute. All vendors give back to society in some way and tend to focus on local and sustainable practices. Here you’ll find several arts and crafts studios with artists working and the opportunity to play around yourself, a few cafes, community garden, yoga center and a lot of photo opps. The look and feel of the development is an excellent example of Chiang Mai’s natural style.

Baan Tawai If you’re looking for antiques, home decor or wooden furniture, head south of the city to Baan Tawai, the woodcarving village. Even if you’re not in the market for shipping a teak table back home, it’s always interesting to see

Local fresh markets If you do a cooking class you’ll visit a local fresh market selling produce, meats and prepared foods, but take time on your own to explore more. There’s always plenty to look at, and try and figure out what things are, especially if you’re interested in cooking or Thai food. What’s particularly fascinating to see as a foreigner is how everything is made fresh, coconut cream and milk is made from shredded coconut flesh and curry pastes are pounded together daily.

EAT

Writing about where to eat in Chiang Mai is difficult – but not for lack of choices! The fact is, there is just so much good food here with many smaller places or food stalls specializing in certain dishes that it’s hard to narrow down recommendations…though these are some of my go-to restaurants.

Pun Pun Pun Pun is a sustainable living center, focusing on seed saving, permaculture and organic farming, located about 50 kilometers outside of Chiang Mai that has three restaurants in town serving dishes made from organic ingredients from the farm. Two of the restaurants serve typical Thai and Western dishes with an emphasis on fresh salads, smoothies and curries, while the third offers Isaan (Eastern Thai) style food, fusion wraps and also has a market. While all the restaurants are worth checking out, start by visiting the one located on the temple grounds of Wat Suan Dok off of Suthep Road.

Street stalls at Chiang Mai Gate

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You can find street food, from freshly sliced fruit to made-to-order stir fry dishes throughout the city at all times of day, but one of the best places to go eat street food for dinner is Chiang Mai Gate (the south gate of the city). Every evening a collection of stalls and carts spring up and you can easily make a meal of different snacks or full, cooked-to-order dishes. With prices for complete dishes usually around $1 – 1.50 you can taste as many things as you want.

Duck Noodles Noodle soups are a standard dish eaten morning, noon and night. Sometimes they’re just simple broths with thin rich noodles, a little pork, chives and fried garlic…or sometimes you get lucky and find the best noodle soup ever with a rice broth and roasted duck. I don’t even know the name of the shop that sells duck noodles that will change your world but I’ll tell you how to get there: heading east, cross over the Nakorn Ping Bridge then turn left at the first light. Look to your left and in about 15 seconds you’ll see a red sign with a cartoon duck floating out of a bowl of noodles – this is the place! Go. Now. (For all soups you can add your own seasonings of sugar – yes, really – fish sauce, crushed chilies and vinegar.)

Tong Tem Toh To try out some traditional Northern Thai dishes head to Tong Tem Toh in the Nimmanhaemin neighborhood. Though mostly catering to locals, this popular spot offers an English menu so you can get a better sense of what you’re ordering. Try the naam prik ong, a roasted tomato and pork paste served with steamed vegetables, or, if you’re feeling adventurous, red ant egg salad (it’s better than it sounds).

Coffee Shops Along with temples and massage shops, Chiang Mai is filled with coffee shops and you don’t have to go far to find a good cup of coffee. Many students and foreigners working online tend to flock to the Nimmanhaemin neighborhood on the west side of town that is known for its trendy cafes, bars and shops. Two coffee spots I particularly love, however, are Ponganes in the Old City on Ratchapakinai Road and Akha Ama Coffee’s Santitham location. The young couple that own Ponganes consistently deliver some of the best lattes I’ve had anywhere (and I come from Seattle) and Ahka Ama Coffee is run by an Akha (hilltribe) village that sustainably grows and processes the organic coffee beans in the mountains outside of Chiang Mai.

Tea at Anantara Chiang Mai 

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This is a fun one if you have something special to celebrate or are looking for a relaxing afternoon activity with friends. Anantara Chiang Mai Resort and Spa (formerly The Chedi) hosts a daily afternoon tea at the property’s “Colonial House” which used to be the original British Consulate in Chiang Mai. From 2:00 – 6:00 p.m. you can take your time enjoying a selections of sandwiches and cakes in an atmosphere filled with old world charm. (Be sure to take a peek inside the house before you go – it’s gorgeous!)

FAVORITES

When someone asks me what my favorite thing to do in Chiang Mai I never quite know what to say. I simply love being here – the quality of life, continually being exposed to new experiences and fact that I can spend much of my time outside are all things that keep me here (for now…) That said, I could never get sick of the following places and activities.

Rent a motorbike 

 

8 Renting a motorbike

One of my absolute favorite things to do in Chiang Mai is take my motorbike out for a long ride. Whether I stick to the city or explore other nearby areas, it’s always an adventure. You can easily rent a motorbike at shops throughout town, but be smart and don’t drive if you really don’t know what you’re doing.

Wander the sois around Nimmanhaemin Road Things change so quickly around here that whenever I take the time to walk the streets I’m already familiar with I always see something new. One of the most interesting places to wander around is the Nimmanhaemin neighborhood centered around Nimmanhaemin Road. Start at one end and weave in and out of the small sois (streets) to discover a variety of colorful little shops, cafes and bars.

Go on a temple walk

9 Temple Bells Wat Jed Yod

There are elaborate Buddhist temples on literally every corner and since only a small handful of the major ones make it into guidebooks, you should really take some time to simply walk around the Old City and along its outer walls to see what you come across. There’s even a temple being covered completely by intricate hammered silver designs and casings, Wat Sri Suphan off of Wualai Road, it’s incredible!

Yoga and Meditation Chiang Mai has a thriving yoga and wellness community For many travelers, Namo Yoga Studio in the Old City is an easy location to get to and offers a range of daily yoga classes from different foreign teachers as well as Thai massage courses. If you want to make yoga a bigger part of your stay in Chiang Mai, check out Thailand Yoga Holidays run by a yoga teacher who’s been based here for eight years and combines wellness and indulgence for some incredible experiences – definitely not your average yoga retreat.

Get out of town! 

10. Chiang Mai country
While there’s so much to do in town it could be easy to spend all your time getting to know the city, but you’d be missing out on Chiang Mai’s true treasure – its natural beauty. Grabbing a motorbike and heading out of town to one of the nearby national parks or handicraft villages always feels rejuvenating – you can go from the center of the city to being surrounded by rice fields surprisingly quick. Some of my favorite getaways are spending the night in the mountain village of Chiang Dao, heading to Huay Tung Tao (above) or spending the day at a ‘sticky waterfall’ that you can climb up with your bare feet.










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Anna Karlin Furniture + Fine Objects By: Annie Werbler

Anna Karlin Furniture + Fine Objects, on Design*Sponge

Anna Karlin dreamed up one of the most engaging booths at ICFF this year, featuring multiple layers of intrigue. The complete work showcased her expertise in digital and print media art direction (not to mention interior and set design), built around a line of irreverent original furniture and lighting products that were a highlight of the show. Our favorites included the colorful experiments in pattern projected upon rugs and stools, the various plumb and bulb pendants that appear to balance just so but actually stem from sturdy metals, and the porcelain vases squashed to resemble spent cigarette butts. Karlin relishes the process of working across all mediums and allowing inspiration from one discovery to inform ideas about another. She believes that each of the design disciplines are interrelated, and they should all be explored simultaneously or else risk leaving some essential piece of information undiscovered. That, and literally playing chess with her furniture arrangements. —Annie

Photography via Anna Karlin Furniture + Fine Objects

Anna Karlin Furniture + Fine Objects, on Design*Sponge

Pattern Collection Carpets

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Plumb Pendant

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Folding Form Vessel

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Patterned Stools

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Chess Side Tables

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Bedside Carafe

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Element Wall Hanger

 










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BH&G Flea Market Chic-Outdoor Bar Ideas From Jennifer OBrien

Today's Inspiration comes from Better Homes and Garden's Style Spotters Jennifer OBrien.

Flea Market Chic-Outdoor Bar Ideas

Summer really wouldn’t be summer without time spent outdoors enjoying the company of family & friends. Backyard parties & weddings have become a chic venue these days as well as using flea market finds to create stylish outdoor spaces perfect for such events. Whether you are a planner or a last minute party kind of person like myself everyone needs an outdoor bar. When you have versatile pieces to use for serving drinks and food then throwing together a summertime soiree seems effortless. The great part about using vintage items to create an outdoor area is, not only will it give a casual rustic charm but it will also be affordable.

I recently decorated my front porch for summer and used some flea market touches along with some new items to make the space feel inviting. I created a beverage station with a simple tray & stand but it got me thinking about using a luggage stand and making a simple tray to fit. Anything that has good height and easy mobility is perfect especially for a small space.

Summer Farmhouse Front Porch & Bar Cart

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Another great design element to look for when shopping for vintage items for outdoor use is anything with casters. The idea of being able to transport a piece from indoors to out can be bring functionality all year long. And when you do find that perfect piece you aren’t afraid to give it a pop of color that gives it some character, like these below.

Antebellum Bridal Luncheon Vintage Mint Bar Cart

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Pretty Screened Porch by The Chronicles of Home

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BHG Outdoor Beverage Cart

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A larger piece like a dresser or buffet can also be ideal for outdoor entertaining. It can give you ample space to host a variety of items for serving. I love how these creative hosts used the draws for extra storage and made use of every inch of space. Although pretty, these pieces will weather so be sure to either bring them inside or keep them protected against the elements after the event.Creative Beverage Station from Southern Weddings

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Summer wedding decor idea for outdoor receptions from Archive Vintage Rentals

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Stone Gable-use an old dresser as an outdoor beverage station

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If you are tight on space the perfect solution is to go vertical. What a clever idea to use an old door for a beverage station. Adding shelves completes the piece and gives it that functionality every bar needs. Painting it all one color makes it feel fresh & cohesive.

Our Southern Home Outdoor Bar Cart

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Are you inspired to go vintage for your next backyard party?

Thanks for stopping by, have a beautiful week!

Jen-City Farmhouse

BH&G Building A Dream House: Kitchen Details From Melissa Bahen

Today's Inspiration comes from Better Homes and Garden's Style Spotters Melissa Bahen.

white kitchen with reclaimed barnwood open shelves

It occurred to me recently that although I extensively documented the construction of our house, I’ve haven’t shown you many photos of the finished product! I’ve given little glimpses here and there, little snippets, but I’ve avoided a full-on home tour for a few reasons. A) When we moved in, there were still lots of loose ends that needed to be tied up. It took weeks–months in some cases–for the house to actually be finished. B) We had a baby exactly two weeks after moving in, then jumped right into the Holidays. C) We moved in right at the beginning of Winter, the darkest part of the year, and there just hasn’t been enough light for good photos. But I think the time has finally come for an honest-to-goodness tour, starting with my favorite room in the house, the kitchen! Here are some of the fun details we put into the kitchen…

white kitchen with reclaimed barnwood shelving and dark brackets

Overall, I love our new house. But yes, there are a few minor things (and even fewer not so minor things) that I would change if we were doing this again. But one thing I’m completely in love with and would never change is the open shelving in the kitchen. We’ve always had plain white everyday dishes, and they’ve always been hidden in a cupboard. When we were designing the kitchen, we knew we wanted open shelves so we could display all of that dinnerware, and we’ve found that in addition to being easy on the eyes, open shelving is super functional. The dishwasher sits just under the set of shelves pictured above, and it makes unloading the dishwasher a breeze. I know that sounds like a small time-saver, but every single time I put dishes away, I’m grateful for those shelves!

We’re lucky to have a barnwood salvage warehouse an hour’s drive from us, so one Saturday, we drove up and spent a few hours looking through piles and piles and piles of old barnwood. It was surprisingly challenging to get enough length for our six shelves and make sure all of the boards were the same depth and thickness, but we found some really pretty boards with nice wear patterns and pretty shading. The oil-rubbed bronze brackets were another stroke of luck. After months of searching for attractive, inexpensive brackets that could hold some serious weight, we finally found exactly what we were looking for–at the Home Depot just a few miles from our house!

oil-rubbed bronze gooseneck kitcen faucet

We love the farmhouse sink in the corner of the kitchen, and really like the goose neck faucet that goes with it. In fact, we liked it enough to buy the exact same fixture for the prep sink in the island. Oil-rubbed bronze finishes can vary a lot from company to company, and it took some searching to find fixtures like this with exactly the finish we wanted.

white subway tile backsplash with grey grout

We knew right from the start of construction–actually, it was one of the first things we decided on before construction even began–that we wanted to have white subway tile in the kitchen. We chose to go from the countertops all the way to the ceiling with the backsplash, and really love the clean, old-fashioned look it has. We also decided to use grey grout for two equally important reasons: it makes the tile really pop, and it hides dirt. The grout happens to match our countertops perfectly. All of the counters on the perimeter of the kitchen are made of a really affordable granite called Norwegian White. I was originally against using granite because I didn’t want high-gloss counters, but our fabricator gave them a beautiful, soft, leathered finish, and they are absolutely perfect. They are just gorgeous.

white cabinets with glass fronts

As much as we love our open shelving, we knew we would need a few cabinets for storage as well. One lucky cabinet, filled with pretty white and clear glass dishes, has glass panes on the front. The texture of the glass is called “Baroque,” and it is swirly and melty and rustic-looking. The cabinet is actually much better looking than any of the dishes inside! And all of the cabinets have pretty, hammered knobs and pulls in our favorite oil-rubbed bronze finish.

Be sure to tune in to my next post for Style Spotters in a few weeks, when I’ll be sharing pictures of the whole kitchen and how all of these fun details work together to create a beautiful room that the whole family likes to hangout in.

Classy makeover for a Hemnes shoe cabinet By: IH guest

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Materials:
1 HEMNES shoe cabinet
1 1/3 sheets adhesive mother-of-pearl veneer (about $25 ea online)
1 set of four green bubble-glass knobs (about $20/set online)

After moving into a new house, we had a need for shoe storage and a hall table in our front entryway. There was already a mirror hung and the space beneath it was ideal, but the spot was very high-traffic and a wide console table would have been in the way. The narrow Hemnes cabinet was exactly the sort of solution we were looking for.

It had an industrial, closet-y look to it, though, and I wanted to dress it up for the entrance. First, we shortened the legs a bit because it was easier to do that than reposition the mirror. Then we figured out that somewhere in the chaos of IKEA construction, we had accidentally put the top front crossbar in backwards, and the holes were showing. Rather than deconstruct and rebuild, I sealed the holes with blank white address labels and covered the bar in a flexible adhesive mother-of-pearl veneer. It took about one and a third sheets to cover the whole bar, and I liked the effect so much that I plan on doing the bottom bar too, sometime in the future.

We finished the look by replacing the plain metal knobs with green bubble-glass knobs, ordered online for about $20 a set. The additions bumped up the sophistication a bit and it looks very nice in our entryway!

dressed up shoe cabinet 2

 

~ kitsa

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How To Get Your Husband to Open Up About Decorating From Jackie

Today's Inspiration comes from guest blogger Jackie Be sure to check out their blog!

My husband and I have fairly open discussions about decorating (whether he likes it or not…haha), but I am still shocked by how much goes unsaid.

I’ve always been guilty of asking surface questions like, “What do you think?” or “How does this look?” He usually answers with equally simple replies like, “Nice” or “Good.” When we only ask surface questions, we never get the full story.

So how do you get your husband to open up and share what he really thinks good or bad? I am going to share with you how I did it. I never knew it could be this easy to start a real conversation about decorating.

You might be thinking who cares…it’s better if my husband doesn’t have an opinion…I like that he lets me do whatever I want. But deep down I bet you’d like it even more if you both loved your home. You settle for indifference, because it’s better than rejection. But I know you secretly want him to want what you want. To be interested just a little. After all, it’s his house, too.

How to get your husband to open up about decorating...it's easier than you think. You just need the right conversation starter.

In any relationship, good communication comes down to finding common ground–a place you can both talk from openly and honestly. Not a one-sided conversation, but a discussion.

You know those great conversations you have after you see a good movie together, finish the same book, or reminisce about a family vacation? Those talks center around a common experience. You have a shared story and a common vocabulary to hold a conversation. Wouldn’t you like to have that kind of conversation about your home? A real discussion?

When I finished writing Free Decorating, I felt something was missing. After some reflection, I wrote a whole new chapter to add to the book and I think it’s one of the most important sections. It became more evident just how important it was when it opened up a frank discussion with my husband that I’ve been craving for years.

In Chapter Three The Eviction Notice, I share a simple but life-changing decision tree that helps you decide what decor to keep, what to get rid of, and what you should plan to replace. I wanted to create a really practical tool that anyone could use to evaluate their current belongings. It’s the same refinement process I’ve used (in my own head) for years to make sure we love everything in our home.

But I always did it solo. I assumed my husband would speak up if he really didn’t like something, and he has on occasion. But I also had this sinking feeling that he probably was letting some things slip by. That he wasn’t telling me everything he thought. That there was a real opinion behind those short one-word replies.

When I was developing the decision tree, I tested it out one night in our bedroom. I wanted to make sure it was strong and comprehensive. I wanted to make sure it would work for anyone. So I asked my husband to use it. I pointed to different items in the room, then had him follow the questions on the decision tree. Little did I know it would open a great dialogue about our decor and I would finally discover what my husband really thought about our bedroom.

In creating the decision tree, I had already run several of the items in our bedroom through the questions and come to my own conclusions. But I had also made most of the decorating decisions in the bedroom, so it wasn’t much of a surprise that pretty much everything came up a keeper for me. When my husband worked through the decision tree, he came up with some different results.

For example, I thought our bed was a total keeper. We bought it together, we’ve had it for maybe close to ten years now, and it’s from our favorite furniture store. I assumed all along my husband loved this bed too. Guess what? He only feels so-so about it. Obviously it’s useful, but after going through the decision tree, he revealed he doesn’t think it’s beautiful to him.

Now imagine if I didn’t like the bed, but had been working off the assumption that he loved it. We could have both been sleeping every night on a bed we both hated, assuming the other one liked it enough to keep it. That’s a real possibility when things go unsaid. One or both of you could be living with things you don’t love.

After our discussion we decided to keep our bed. It’s certainly useful and I think it’s beautiful. It’s not a priority at this point to replace it, but someday maybe we’ll find something we both find beautiful. Now I trust that we have a framework to have an honest discussion about how we feel before we buy the next bed.

There were a few other things that are leaving our room because of our conversation. The most notable was a piece of inexpensive art in the corner. It was nothing spectacular, but I enjoyed it. Turns out my husband hates it. When I asked why he’d said it was nice in the past, he replied, “I thought it might grow on me, but it’s not.” Even though I still like it, I didn’t want to keep it around knowing he doesn’t like it. It was easy for me to let it go knowing I’d rather find a piece for that spot that we’ll both enjoy.

You Just Need the Right Conversation Starter

The Keep It or Lose It Decision Tree and the entire Eviction Notice chapter gives you a simple way to start a discussion with your spouse about any item in your home. Instead of making assumptions, you can discuss what you like and don’t like about it and why. Instead of just accepting it when your husband doesn’t like something, you can refer him to the decision tree to help pinpoint why, so you can make a better selection next time.

With the decision tree you can uncover how he really feels about any item. Is it useful, but not so beautiful? Is it beautiful to one of you and not the other? Is something you assumed was meaningful to your spouse, not that important to them? Is there something else that is deeply meaningful that’s not being displayed?

The Keep It or Lose It Decision Tree is just one of the conversation starters in Free Decorating. My husband and I have also had great talks over The Pre-Purchase Test in Chapter Nine and Love vs. Appreciation in Chapter Two. They’ve given us the shared vocabulary to have meaningful decorating discussions and to hold each other accountable to create a home we both love.

Start a decorating discussion with your husband today.

P.S. The special launch price for Free Decorating ends tomorrow. The ebook is on sale for $2.99. You can also save $2 off the paperback version and get it for only $7.99 when your order here and use discount code: WRAL9T7E. The price goes up tomorrow, so grab your copy now.